Monday, December 26, 2011
book - Nanny 911
Nanny 911 - Expert Advice for All Your Parenting Emergencies by Deborah Carroll and Stella Reid
These two are awesome! They give great advice throughout the book on how to deal with the most challenging child situation. An interesting book. Here is a list of some of their best tips:
1. Parents work as a team.
2. Keep a happy marriage - have a weekly date night.
3. Be consistent.
4. Say what you mean and mean it.
5. Don't label your children. If a child is shy, don't always say it in front of her... otherwise she'll only identify that way.
6. Say 'I love you' every day.
7. Modify your expectations. Kids make messes and are loud. Don't expect this to never happen.
8. Don't make promises you can't keep.
9. Don't make children talk when they're still too angry to do so. Having a long drawn out conversation after a time out is not appropriate or helpful.
10. Don't say 'no' all the time.
11. Don't yell. It doesn't work.
12. Don't compare siblings.
13. If you can't accept no as an answer, then don't ask the question that way. For example, "Do you want a time out?" should not be asked.
14. Learn your child's triggers to tantrums, and try to prevent them.
15. Teach that negative behaviors have consequences, and positive behaviors positive behaviors get rewarded.
16. Keep to regular routines - bed time, meals, etc.
17. Eat dinner together.
18. Everyone does chores to help out.
19. Clean the clutter. Old toys have to go.
20. Respect goes both ways.